I’ll rise up and I’ll do it a thousand times again.

5.5 years

I know that I have stuffed a lot of feelings away to deal with later and went into survival mode for the most part since diagnosis. You do what you have to do when you have to be tough. Survival mode doesn’t leave a lot of room for feeling. I feel like I’m starting to look around and assess the damage and feel the feelings. Sometimes it just takes having friends give you the permission to stop and feel all the things.

This makes me think so much of my friends who have lost their husbands. I wonder if they are starting to breathe yet. We all experienced the same big crash at the same time in our lives and we are in different places….but the crash of brain cancer entering our lives and changing everything was the same. I’m sure they were tough when they had to be tough. The sad thing is, years later I know people around them move on and maybe they are still heavy in grief. My heart hurts for those friends. I know some have remarried, some are still heavy in grief, some are somewhere in between on the outside and I wonder where they are on the inside.

One thing is for sure….we aren’t who we were 5 years ago. Some of us are stronger in some ways, some of us are completely broken in other ways.  I can’t even explain how these experiences build walls. But at the same time, we know how fast it can all be taken away. I don’t take people for granted. I try to always tell people when I appreciate them. Cancer has a way of making you love fiercely. It has a way of making you passionately kind. Because we realize how one act of kindness can be the wind beneath our sails to get through a day. And how on the bad days, lack of kindness can shatter you.  There are the walls….but there is also this strong desire to be a part of life.

Sharon Elizabeth Photography

Nov 8th

This was a couple of years before diagnosis. 🙂IMG_6437

Hello!!  I took a break from the blog but I wanted to check in and give an update. Mike’s MRI’s have been stable which blows us all away.  Everyone always asks what he’s done differently and the truth is, we don’t know why he has survived this long. There have been a lot of prayers for him….but there have been so many prayers for our dear friends that we met on this journey that have passed away along the way too. We appreciate life. There is so much we don’t understand in this world.

It has been 5 years and 4 months since his Glioblastoma diagnosis. Our lives are totally different than they were before diagnosis and totally different than anything we could have imagined. My life is centered around being a caregiver and taking care of the kids and grand baby. It’s so true that when one person in the family has cancer it affects the entire family.

We are here and we are surviving.




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I’ve realized lately that being an inspiration really drives me. Not in a way that I want attention or that I feel like I’m receiving some kind of praise, but more in the sense of wanting others to be better, to feel better, and to have hope.  If I can share my experiences and if that sharing can result in others having more hope or for them to find the energy to push through something they didn’t think they could face, or for them to have a desire to pay something forward and help someone else – that makes me want to share more. I want to see lives improved, refreshed, and uplifted.

I haven’t been sharing a lot lately for several reasons. Our life doesn’t change much day to day and there aren’t medical updates. In the beginning I was learning how to navigate Glioblastoma and I had three purposes for this blog – To give God the glory for the healing that I believed was going to happen, to keep friends and family updated, and to help others navigate their diagnosis and give them hope and inspiration.

Our experience with Glioblastoma is not a normal experience because Mike is still here 4.5 years later.  Now I’m learning to navigate an entirely unplanned situation.  I like to plan and I like to have an idea of what my future holds. Even when the prognosis was scary, there was comfort in planning.  I had to plan for him to pass away as thats the normal outcome of someone diagnosed with Glioblastoma. I have learned that I have no idea what life has in store for my family.

….Then I realized that life would be hard either way. That losing him would be unbearable…and I also realized that this new normal wasn’t going to be easy or full of enjoyment either. I’ve had to embrace that its ok to feel that way. That I shouldn’t feel guilty for grieving what we had or what we thought our future held. I did lose a lot with his diagnosis. He is here but there are many things that we grieve that are no longer here.  I had to realize that I couldn’t prepare for the future.  I have to just face it each day and navigate the best I can. I’m a wife in my 30’s – but I feel like I’m living a lifestyle of someone much older. He’s like a dementia/alzheimers patient. Going from having a husband who was a strong head of household in many ways to now being the head of the household has really been a transition for me.  All responsibilities fall on me. I now have a husband who doesn’t understand how to pour himself a glass of milk.

I’ve grown so much through this experience and I want others to know that whatever it is that you are facing – you can do it.

Having a husband on hospice and a 15 year old daughter who was pregnant felt impossible.  We did it and we are still doing it.  I could have given up. I could have decided I couldn’t face the next day. But I didn’t. I fought through to see the joy that I knew was coming. I’ve always held onto the thought that joy comes…if you hold on long enough, you will have a moment that made all the hardship worth fighting through.

Establishing a successful business felt impossible with the limitations of being homebound and taking care of such a hectic family – but I’ve made Trainer with LuLaRoe and have been absolutely blown away with the success of my business.  For many months I thought “Ok, I will keep putting one foot in front of the other until I fail, and then I will throw in the towel.” I gave myself permission to fail before I even started. In my mind, I wanted to go ahead and try and get the failure over with so I could get that desire to try behind me.  I knew I wanted to try selling LuLaRoe. I figured I’d fail. Guess what…I’m 6 months in and instead of bracing for failure, I’m now excited to continue to build my business.  Sometimes you have to face a situation with tenacity. You have to dig deep and you have to fight to get through some things.

So here I am – hoping that I can give  you some inspiration to face those things that feel impossible. New diagnosis, scary prognosis, personal situations – whatever it is, you’ve got this!



New Year

Wow, here we are in 2017 a family of 6! Everytime I looked at the mantle this season and saw 6 stocking hanging there, I couldn’t help but think of the GBM prognosis and how thankful I am that Mike is a long term survivor. I’ve shared lately about how hard it’s been but I wouldn’t choose for him to not be here. I’m committed to him in sickness and in health. I wanted to share a photo that we took at our Grandbabies one year birthday party. Please keep the prayers coming, I appreciate them! image

December 13, 2016

I’ve been so open from the very beginning with Mike being sick and it’s been my heart to help others through this situation. It is always amazing to hear that someone has been inspired and that my sharing has gotten them through a tough time. I’ve seen so many lose their husbands that I think I got to a place where I felt like I lost my right to struggle since I have the amazing opportunity to spend time with my husband every day. I still have him and that is huge. I choose to be thankful but I have to admit that this life is hard. I’ve so openly shared our ups that I feel somewhat obligated to share the downs to show the entire picture.

Let me just admit, some mornings I don’t know how I’m going to find the motivation and energy to face the day.

Some days life feels too heavy, too hard, too overwhelming.

If that’s you today, just know that putting one foot in front of the other and facing one moment at a time gets you through the hard moments. Then good moments happen again.

Hang tight for the good moments.

We were never promised that everything would always be awesome. I remember a verse hitting me so powerfully when I was struggling in the beginning of his diagnosis. I was sitting in the van with Kenzie while Mike was in treatment and I opened my bible app. John 16:33 was the verse of the day. I remember wondering why life was so hard. Wondering if we did something wrong somewhere along the way to deserve what we were going through. I think too many times people wonder what they have done wrong to be experiencing such a tough life. Tough lives happen to good people.

I’d appreciate some prayer warriors in my corner today holding me up. 💕

John 16:33 “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”