This post is going to be all over the place because my brain is all over the place. We planned a vacation to the Outer Banks months ago and I decided on a house with a pool so that the kids could have entertainment at the house and opted against an elevator to save money. So much changed in the months since the house was reserved. The night before we were to leave we were going to have family photos done. Mike was resting on the couch under the photos she took of us 6 years ago two days before his brain surgery so I snapped this photo of him resting.
Before we even started the family photos, Mike fell. Sharon took a few photos with permission and posted about it here on her facebook photography page. Please take a moment to head over to the link and check it out.
The above photo was taken by Sharon Elizabeth Photography. She is amazing. I can’t even tell you how big her heart is.
We were in the ER until 2am. It was a horrible experience.
Mike’s whole body was shaking in pain and after nothing was seen on the xray and CT scan, they sent us home before he could even put weight on his leg. He had dilaudid, fentanyl, percocet, another dose of fentanyl…and was STILL. IN. PAIN. And they sent us home. They didn’t even help us to the vehicle.
We did have a few laughs in the experience anyways…I wasn’t going to attempt to put his jeans back on him while he was in pain so I looked at my best friend standing next to his hospital bed and said “Can you go in the bathroom and try Mike’s jeans on so he can wear your leggings?” She did! I had to snap this photo at 2am as we got him home and into bed.
Like I said, this post is all over the place. The morning of his fall I pulled the walker out because for weeks he was becoming less and less steady. After the fall it was even worse. I figured if he was going to recover in bed, he might as well do it in a beautiful house on vacation that we already paid for. We got home from the ER and got to bed finally around 3:30am. The plan of leaving at 6am was already not happening. I wondered if we were even going to be able to to at all. While in the ER I just knew his hip was broken again and assumed vacation was off. But we made it there. It ended up not being restful at all. He was very restless and anxious. He wasn’t able to be left unattended. He didn’t sleep well and was in pain. There were good moments but it was a very hard week. The last night there he was out of bed about 15 times. Each time he tried to stand someone had to be at his side to make sure he didn’t fall. He had one fall there and I had to go get my brother in law out of bed to help me lift him back up. The week was so hard.
If your loved one needs assistance walking and you don’t have a gait belt, get one! I don’t think we could have gotten him down the stairs without one. We got him up the stairs to his bedroom the first day of vacation and then took him down the last day.
I had moments of frustration that this vacation went all wrong and was nothing like I planned. BUT we did end the week with a beautiful day and occasion. Kayla got married!! We attempted her Dad walking her down the “aisle” with no walker but then he had to be the one walked down the aisle, but as you can see Kayla was just as happy that her Dad was able to give her away.
Even at the wedding, we still didn’t get a family photo and I was only in one photo. It’s been a crazy couple of weeks.
I will honestly tell you that I have felt overwhelmed and exhausted and have hid in the bathroom many times to cry. It’s hard to portray the truth of life on social media. I can post pretty pictures all day long – those moments ARE moments of truth – but there is also so much going on that is heartbreaking and hard to handle. I hope this blog post shows the wide array of life as it is.
I hope this post shows you that there can be joy and sorrow simultaneously. Neither one takes away from the other. They are simply able to be experienced parallel to each other.