Hospice – Glioblastoma Update

I look around and see the Kindergarten homework, sparkly shoes, silly artwork, video games and funky teenage combat boots. Today is a half day for the kids leading into a 4 day weekend.  Before cancer entered our lives we always left town on long weekends.  Long weekends were always our time to reconnect, re-energize and have some adventure.  Instead of packing up for a weekend at the Outer Banks or some other destination, today Mike was officially admitted into home hospice.

What makes this especially difficult is that it isn’t something I can talk out with my husband. My person.  The one who always helped me sort out big decisions like this.  For awhile Mike hasn’t been able to comprehend his illness. He hasn’t understood why his head hurts or why he can’t “think right” as he says it.  He doesn’t remember the brain surgery, radiation or chemo most days.  The last several appts we went to for treatment, he didn’t understand why he was there getting an IV or what medication he was getting and why, even when we told him over and over again.  The last appt he told me he was tired and didn’t want to do this.  It has taken every bit of him to just walk into the office lately and he reluctantly accepted a wheelchair to get down the hallway after we got into the office.  It has been months since he left the house for something other than doctor appts.  The ugly reality is that I don’t even remember the last appt when he was able to walk into the bathroom on his own and provide the urine sample in the cup without my assistance.  Not a glamorous piece of information, I know…but that’s the reality of it.

At this point he doesn’t remember conversations. He will ask me every two minutes where the kids are, even in the middle of the night if he wakes up.  Most people would just know that their kids are in their beds under the same roof, but in his mind that logic just isn’t there. Talking to Mike about his treatment options have only left him in a state of confusion and distress each time.  Any conversations about brain surgery or his diagnosis just leave him devastated as if he is hearing the diagnosis for the first time.  I’m hesitant to post this because I do not want anyone talking gloomy to him or mentioning the word hospice.  This may end up being a very private leg of this journey for our family.  He is fine with the nurses that come into the home, and he is relieved to know that he doesn’t have to leave the house for doctor appointments anymore, but I do not want him brought down by sad conversations or devastated at the word hospice being said to him.  That is not a moment of sadness that he needs to feel over and over again, and HOPE and POSITIVITY is important.  We will let him live each day to the fullest with the most comfort possible, physically and emotionally.  I will hold onto hope of a miracle, even as we are faced with hardships and an obvious decline.  I will strive to rest in confidence that each day is already paved out before us.

**Just so we are clear since I am sharing this, Do NOT have a conversation with him about hospice.

At this point his body and brain are functioning so poorly that comfort care is the best goal for him.  Since there is nothing further we can do, it’s in God’s hands.  In God’s hands isn’t a bad place to be.  God is bigger than cancer, bigger than treatment, bigger than the damage we have seen.


4 responses to “Hospice – Glioblastoma Update

  • Barbie Louviere

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family now and all the days to come. You are 100% right, we serve a BIG God!

    I am a cancer pt in remission, I’m 31 yrs old. Cancer Sucks, but it Will NEVER take our memories, our love, and our hope.

    Psalms 34:18
    The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
    He rescues those who are crushed in spirit.

    I know you don’t know me but Sarah is like a sister to me. If you need anyone to talk to or someone just to listen I’m here for you.

  • Janice McGowan

    Beautifully said! Mike is lucky to have you and your keen insight into this beast! Bless you all!!

  • Michael

    You have more faith, courage, and determination than you may ever realize. In such an unimaginable chapter in the life of your family, your words give others the priceless gift of strength and hope.
    Semper Fidelis

  • Brenda jarmusz

    We love you Shauna, we continue to pray for God’s will to be done. You are right, God is bigger than all of this and of all things. I may not live in the same state as you but you and the family are always in my thoughts and prayers and that is where you will remain forever. I send huge hugs and I still offer a listening ear if you ever want or need it. I’m just a phone call or text away. God Bless.

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